In my heart I know today is just another day.24 hours.1440 minutes.86,400 seconds.Same as yesterday.Same as tomorrow.
But in another sense it’s different from any other day.Very different.And I confess to you that sometimes throughout today I’ll let it get to me.Let it get me down.And even let the enemy get a foothold if I’m not careful.
I love to see the joy in the faces of the other ladies in my office as they smell the flowers and consume the cards with an unrestrained smile greeted by a cherished tear.There’s nothing more special than that.Knowing that someone didn’t just remember you.But they remembered you enough to go out of their way to make a public display.A spectacle of their love for you.Now that’s special.
There’s a point in every relationship in which you eventually begin to see the other person not as the idealized self that your heart has romanticized but as the flawed individual that he or she necessarily is. It’s happened to you. It’s happened to others. It’s happened to anyone who’s ever dated for any length of time. Or crossed the threshold of marriage into reality. And it’s at that point that you have to decide if you’re just in love with being in love or if you’re truly in love with a flesh-and-blood human being who faces the same struggles that you do.
Dr. Les Parrott, a professor of clinical psychology, and his wife, Dr. Leslie Parrott, a marriage and family therapist, have written about this key turning point in every relationship in their insightful book “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” (Zondervan, 1995). Whether you’re presently in a relationship that’s headed to the altar or not, their description of what it means to come face-to-face with romantic disillusionment gives helpful direction to us all. The following excerpt is taken from their book chapter addressing myths in relationships that must be confronted if you’re going to progress to a deeper level of intimacy.
“Most relationships begin with an emotional honeymoon, a time of deep and passionate romance. But this romance is invariably temporary. In The Road Less Traveled, Dr. Scott Peck says that ‘no matter whom we fall in love with, we sooner or later fall out of love if the relationship continues long enough.’ He does not mean that we cease loving our partner. He means that the feeling of ecstatic love that characterizes the experience of falling in love always passes. ‘The honeymoon always ends,’ he states. ‘The bloom of romance always fades.’ Continue reading →
Sunday, June 23, 2013 – “Starved for Love” (Dr. Stanley, “In Touch” Broadcast)
NOTE: The following is a partial transcription of the “Starved for Love” message delivered by Charles Stanley as part of the “In Touch” telecast on June 23. You can watch/listen to the message at the following link, which was active at the time of posting: http://www.intouch.org/broadcast/this-week-on-tv
What statements by Dr. Stanley stand out the most to you? Feel free to comment.
SUMMARY: “Have you tried to fulfill that empty place in your life with things, but continue to be unsatisfied? Perhaps you feel starved for love. It’s not the will of God for His children to feel empty, alone and without love. He has made provision for you to be fulfilled and live with joy.”
TRANSCRIPTION:Sometimes we try to fulfill the empty place in our lives caused by lack of love by accumulating things or through repeated relationships that didn’t work out. Continue reading →